Tag: spirituality

The Highs and Lows of Life.

While psychology and esoteric systems can sometimes diverge depending on your perspective, there are two areas in which both sides often seem to encounter similar developmental territory: descent and ascension.

Many older traditions, particularly those concerned with depth, shadow, initiation, and transformation, contain journeys into darkness, underworlds, death and rebirth, ordeals, confrontations with monsters, periods of isolation, and symbolic dismemberment followed by reconstruction.

Psychology has its own languages for confronting painful, avoided, unconscious, contradictory, or previously unintegrated material. We descend. Into history. Into emotion. Into patterns. Into fear. Into the unconscious. Into whatever darkness lies beneath the person we presently experience ourselves to be.

The explanations aren’t identical.  But the developmental principle is recognizable: Sometimes you cannot understand what is happening on the surface without exploring what lies underneath it.

A reaction may have a history. A belief may have been formed under circumstances you’ve forgotten. A strength may have grown from something painful. A behavior that causes problems today may once have solved a problem extremely well. So, we descend.

This is not necessarily movement backward in the developmental sense. It is movement toward depth. You follow the present downward into what helped create it. And there are things worth finding there. But finding them isn’t enough. You must carry them back.

The objective isn’t to construct a permanent home at the bottom of the spiral. The objective is to return to where you began with something you didn’t possess when you left. Understanding. Awareness. Acceptance. A different interpretation. A lesson. A choice. A recovered part of yourself. Whatever was found at depth must encounter the present person before it can become part of present life.

The Other Side of Experience

A great deal of spiritual language also points upward. Higher consciousness. Higher Self. Ascension. Transcendence. Enlightenment. Liberation.

The imagery is understandable. Height gives us perspective. Rising above something allows us to see relationships that may be invisible while standing inside them. Many spiritual traditions therefore associate development with ascent—with reaching beyond the limitations of our ordinary perspective toward something greater.

As we move upward conceptually, perspective expands. From close enough, an event can occupy your entire field of vision. Move farther away and it becomes one event among many. Move farther still and relationships between events become visible. Patterns appear. What seemed random may acquire context. What seemed overwhelmingly important may become smaller. What seemed insignificant may reveal itself as part of something much larger. This is one reason spiritual and contemplative traditions have always been attracted to the symbolism of ascent. Higher perspective can change understanding.

But there is a danger here too. Perspective can become distance.

If the objective becomes permanently escaping the ordinary human condition—escaping the body, emotion, difficulty, responsibility, relationship, limitation, or material life—then the very perspective that was supposed to expand life can become a means of withdrawing from it. I don’t regard transcendence as useless. I question transcendence that never returns. If you climb high enough to see something that couldn’t be seen from the ground, then bring what you saw back to the ground. That is where it becomes practical.

A spiritual realization should eventually encounter behavior. A philosophical understanding should eventually encounter decisions. Greater consciousness should eventually encounter ordinary relationships. Expanded perspective should eventually encounter responsibility. Whatever happens in meditation eventually encounters the person who gets up from meditation. Whatever happens during ritual eventually encounters the person who leaves the ritual space. Whatever is learned in solitude eventually encounters another human being. Whatever is discovered beyond the ordinary perspective eventually has to be expressed through an ordinary life if it is going to become part of that life.

The Present Is the Point of Contact

It could be easy to misunderstand this and think the present is simply a neutral midpoint between darkness below and light above. For me, this is where spirituality and personal development become inseparable. Below you is depth. Above you is perspective. You can travel downward to understand what lies beneath your present condition. You can travel upward to see your present condition from increasingly larger perspectives.

But the life you are actually living is occurring here. In the present.

That makes the present something more than the starting point of the journey. It is the place where what you discover elsewhere becomes capable of affecting your life. You can descend into the past and discover why a particular pattern exists. Useful. But eventually you must return to the present and ask:

What am I going to do differently now that I understand it?

You can ascend into an extraordinary spiritual perspective and experience yourself, humanity, consciousness, or existence in a completely different way. Useful. But eventually you must return and ask:

How does someone who has seen that live differently tomorrow morning?

Without that return, insight can remain insight. Integration requires embodiment. That makes the present the grounds of integration.

It is where the different directions meet. It is where information becomes choice. It is where perspective becomes action. It is where understanding becomes behavior. It is where the past encounters the possibility of a different future. It is where the spiritual encounters the physical. It is where whatever you believe about consciousness, soul, meaning, or existence must encounter the fact that right now you are also a human being living a human life.

You descend. You return. You ascend. You return. And each return potentially changes the person standing there. You can encounter similar territory repeatedly while experiencing it from a different depth or height. You may return to an old question years later and discover that it is no longer asking quite the same thing, because you are no longer the same person asking the question. Extraordinary experiences can be valuable. So can profound psychological insights. So can symbolic experiences, difficult confrontations with yourself, periods of contemplation, and moments when your perspective seems to expand beyond anything you previously understood. Because I believe greater depth and greater perspective can help us become increasingly capable of engaging with life and being human deliberately.

Where Psychology and Esoteric Practice Meet.

For much of human history, people have developed practices intended to change themselves. They have meditated, prayed, fasted, performed rituals, contemplated symbols, worked with breath and movement, undertaken initiations, refined the body, studied philosophy, entered periods of solitude, confronted fears, practiced disciplines, and attempted, in a variety of other ways, to understand parts of themselves that ordinary daily life did not necessarily reveal.

Today, we have another language available for examining human development: psychology.

Psychology has given us increasingly sophisticated ways of discussing cognition, emotion, behavior, attention, identity, personality, development, the unconscious, relationships, trauma, motivation, and many other dimensions of human experience.

But something I have discovered through my own development is that the psychological and the esoteric do not necessarily have to be competing ways of looking at the same person. In my own experience, psychology often provided language and conceptual structure for understanding processes that I had already begun exploring through esoteric practice. The practices came first. The psychological understanding frequently came later.

Spiritual Development Is Still Personal Development

This is ultimately why I use the term personal development so broadly. If a chosen practice changes your relationship with your thoughts, that concerns personal development. If it develops discipline over your behavior, that concerns personal development. If it changes your relationship with your emotions, that concerns personal development. If it causes you to examine identity, meaning, mortality, values, purpose, or your relationship with something greater than yourself, that concerns personal development too.

The spiritual dimension does not have to be removed from the person for the psychological aspect to be worth examining. And the psychological dimension does not automatically invalidate the spiritual aspect. They are different lenses. Sometimes they point toward different conclusions. Sometimes they reveal different levels of the same experience. Sometimes they genuinely disagree. The objective isn’t to force every field into a single vocabulary. It is to learn what each perspective allows us to see.

Different Languages, Overlapping Territory

I don’t believe psychology and esoteric traditions are interchangeable. Psychology is not simply modern terminology for magic. And reducing every spiritual or esoteric experience to a psychological mechanism can remove precisely the dimension that makes the experience meaningful to the practitioner. At the same time, an esoteric interpretation doesn’t eliminate the psychological processes occurring within the person practicing it.

 Both perspectives can sometimes be useful.

Consider meditation. Meditation existed as a spiritual and contemplative practice for thousands of years before modern psychology began systematically studying it. Today, psychological research can examine aspects of meditation in terms of attention, awareness, acceptance, stress responses, and emotional regulation. That psychological description doesn’t necessarily tell a Buddhist, yogi, occultist, mystic, or other practitioner everything that meditation means within their tradition. But neither does the spiritual interpretation prevent us from recognizing that practicing meditation develops psychological capacities.

Both statements can be true without requiring one to replace the other.

Practice Can Precede Explanation

This has been particularly important in understanding my own development. Many of the skills I later learned to describe using psychological terminology were not originally developed by sitting down and deciding to practice psychology.

They developed through practice. Meditation. Concentration. Somatic practices. Breathe work. Visualization. Symbolic work. Ritual. Self-observation. Emotional work. Auric-based energetic practices. Contemplation. Working deliberately with different states of consciousness and different perspectives upon my own experience.

Some of those practices were explicitly spiritual or esoteric in purpose. Yet practicing them repeatedly also required me to develop things that psychology can discuss perfectly well. Research on mindfulness provides a particularly clear example of this overlap: practices with contemplative roots are now studied in relation to attention, metacognitive awareness, emotional regulation, cognitive flexibility, and rumination.  That doesn’t mean every esoteric practice produces those particular effects.

It demonstrates something more basic: A practice can belong to one tradition while developing capacities that can also be understood through another field.

Symbols Are More Than Decorations

Symbolism is another area where the boundaries become interesting. Human beings have used symbolic figures for an extraordinarily long time. Gods. Animals. Heroes. Monsters. Elements. Planets. Colors. Directions. Numbers. Myths. And various other things as well.

Whatever metaphysical status someone assigns to those things, symbols can also function as ways of organizing information about experience. A symbol can hold several associations simultaneously. An animal might represent qualities of behavior, instinct, emotion, strength, vulnerability, relationship, or environment. A mythological figure can represent an entire collection of characteristics and relationships in a form that is easier to contemplate than a list of abstract definitions. That is one reason symbolism became important within my own personal-development framework.

I wasn’t interested merely in collecting interesting symbols. I was interested in what happened when I worked with them. What qualities did I personally associate with them? Why? What did my interacting with them reveal? What changed over time?

At that point, symbolic practice becomes something that can be explored psychologically without requiring the practitioner to abandon its spiritual meaning.

Ritual as Deliberate Practice

The same is true of ritual. The word can sound mysterious, but ritual itself is hardly foreign to human behavior. Psychology recognizes ritual both in clinical contexts and, more broadly, as ceremonial behavior involving structured actions and words; anthropology has long examined religious, magical, calendrical, and initiatory rituals as well.

From a personal-development perspective, ritual can provide a deliberately constructed environment for attention. You determine what you are doing. You establish an intention. You create a sequence. You concentrate upon particular ideas, symbols, emotions, or actions. You repeat practices. You observe what happens.

For an esoteric practitioner, considerably more may be occurring. That’s where I think intellectual humility becomes useful. Psychology can tell us something about what the human being is doing. A spiritual or esoteric tradition may offer another explanation for what the practitioner is experiencing and believes is occurring.

You don’t necessarily have to destroy one explanation in order to investigate the other.

You Don’t Have to Settle the Universe First

There is a tendency when discussing spirituality, psychology, mysticism, consciousness, or esoteric practices to immediately arrive at the largest possible argument:

But what is ultimately real?

That’s an important question. It is also not always the first question that needs answering. You don’t have to settle every metaphysical question before asking whether a certain practice teaches you something useful about yourself. Are you more aware? More disciplined? More compassionate? More capable of recognizing your own patterns? More capable of directing your behavior? More capable of living according to what you claim to value? Has your relationship with yourself improved? Has your relationship with other people changed? Can you apply what you learned when life becomes difficult?

If the answer is yes, then something experienced elsewhere has begun to become integrated here. Because whatever language we use—psychological, philosophical, spiritual, symbolic, or esoteric—the information eventually returns to the person having the experience.

That person still has to live. Still has to choose. Still has to act. Still has to integrate what was learned. For me, psychology has become an extremely useful framework for understanding parts of that process. Esoteric practice has been one of the major ways through which I experienced and developed within it. I don’t need either one to erase the other. I prefer to understand what I can learn from both.